Change Your Story; Change Your Life
Psychologist, Albert Ellis, said, summing up 70 years of helping people that most of the emotional disturbances he saw in patients were caused by “three nutty beliefs:”
- I should do well
- You should treat me well
- The world should be easy.
Dr. Ellis recommended that you don’t “should on” yourself, others, or the world.
Dr. Joanna Moncrief, a UK psychologist specializing in non-chemical approaches to dealing with emotional upset says most cases of depression “are responses to things that happen in people’s lives—and we need to figure out ways to help people to manage or address their problems—it’s dealing with causes.”
Carl Jung wrote, “The greatest and most important problems of life are in a certain sense insoluble…. They can never be solved, only outgrown… Some higher or wider interest arose on the person’s horizon, and through this widening of view, the insoluble problem lost its urgency. It was not solved logically in its own terms, but faded when confronted with a new and stronger life urge.”
Emotional Mastery Coaching can help you deal with nutty beliefs and stories, manage your moods and emotions, and invoke the higher urge that comes with creating what truly matters to you—with whatever you have to start with.
Increasing Your Emotional Mastery Empowers You To
- Rise above depression, anxiety, and “overwhelm”
- Build resilience and strengthen your adversity response
- Increase your ability to bounce back from setbacks
- Create great results with less stress and strain
- Increase “Grit,” i.e. passion and perseverance
- Stay strong and focused in challenging times
- Feel free, focused, energized and alive
I was an emotional wreck when I started with Bruce. But with his help and new emotional mastery skills, I changed how I talked to myself, got past my roadblocks, and learned how to create results I’d only dreamed about.Sally Czynowski, Vancouver, BC
Emotional Mastery Coaching won’t instantly transform your life into a bowl of cherries. But it will help you feel more in control of your emotions, and greatly up your chances of creating what most deeply matters to you.
I’d get so tangled up in negative thoughts and stories I couldn’t think clearly, or act on my dreams beyond work. But using the ABCs, I untangled my thoughts, applied the Life Design Framework, and began creating results .D.R. Denson, Portland, OR
How Changing Your Story Can Change Your Life
“Experience is not what happens to you;Aldous Huxley, Author and Psychologist
It is what you do with what happens to you.”
Self-talk—the things we say to ourselves, and the stories we spin in our minds—can be damaging to our emotional health.
Sometimes called “monkey mind” or “roof brain chatter,” the stream of thoughts you experience every day can work for you or against you. They have major effects on your moods, actions and results.
Emotional Mastery is about developing the skills to recognize self-sabotaging thoughts, beliefs and stories—and change them to self-supporting ones.
As your thoughts and stories become more realistically positive you become better able to deal with whatever happens to you. Your mood will improve. Mild to moderate depression and anxiety will dissolve. Your actions will be more effective, and your results will be more rewarding.
“With your help, I got out of debt and into my own business that—Terinn Vaters, On-Line Business Owner, Vancouver, BC
thrives. My marriage improved, and my health. Instead of stressed, I’m relaxed. I feel great about myself and my ability to take on challenges, now. We also bought a half interest in a tiny beachside cottage in a quiet little town in Mexico. And spend time there, decompressing and energizing ourselves.
When I started coaching I brought with me a ton of negative thoughts and judgments I was not aware of: “People should support me. My husband is an unsupportive ass. I’m a failure.” I also firmly believed that I never got upset—and any conflict was the other person’s fault.Doris F., Interior BC
Working with Bruce I realize that my judgments were false, and damaging. Changing them made a dramatic difference. I realized if I focused on my passion, people did support me. My husband is actually very kind and helpful. Most of all I realized how angry and upset I was most of the time.
Changing those and other “nutty beliefs” while working with Bruce, I started a successful business, wrote and published several short stories, and rekindled my relationship with my husband. I’m so happy now.